UNITED 4 BAFANA

Everyone that knows me well knows that I love my football and i really get mad when people who know nothing about the sport are the first to make silly judgemental comments about the beautiful game!

My thing especially at this stage in South Africa is,We need to be united for Bafana and have hope because negativity won't get us anywhere,theres alot i could write about this particular subject but I prefer to keep it short and simple and will rally behind the boys!

I recently attended a Castle Lager event which was supposedly the last public event the guys would be doing and i must say that the spirit in that place was amazing so patriotic and heartwarming that the boys must have been super proud that they were the ones chosen to wear SA colours and represent the nation.

Do us proud guys,we united 4 u and behind you all the way.

Written By A Man

I might be a Mad Black Woman right now but this landed in my email from a friend who has no idea what I'm going through but like i said on 1 of my tweets God sends us messages in many ways and I think that as much as my friend sent this to many this one was meant for me.

I've always said that no matter how much your friends could influence your relationship decisions ultimately you make the final decision because you will have to live with that decision NOT THEM!!

Here goes though I loved this piece because it hit home!!

IF A MAN WANTS YOU

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.

Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve

then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself

a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.

He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant,

Why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.

If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has

more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.

He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else's man.

Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.

You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about

baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists

of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your

always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.

Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone SMILE, another

RETHINK her choices, and another woman PREPARE.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate

them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.

the email then goes on to say at the bottom - BY THE WAY THIS WAS WRITTEN BY A MAN

and I'M NOT BITTERI'M MAD AS HELL(my favourite line from Diary of A Mad Black Woman)Lol

Music Is Healing

Most of my life has been an openbook because I'm not the type of person to keep secrets and hide what happens in my life but I recently had to learn the tough way that some things in life you need to keep to yourself.

I say this because I just realised that had I kept my life to myself I would not have to explain to all these people why I am going though what I am going through right now,i know alot of people will say that I'm attracting the bad that happens to me by saying this but every March since 2006 has been the same for me,hurdles,dodgying bullets and being at a low but this year I must say it really hit me below the belt and by that i mean in all aspects of my life.

I've always thought I'm a strong woman that could take whatever came her way and even dubbed myself SUPERWOMAN but in the past few days I realised that SUPERWOMAN is also human and that all that time spent trying to fix others problems and not mine has not helped me in anyway!!

now I need to soldier on and like yolanda Adams song THE BATTLE IS THE LORDS says:

There is no pain Jesus can't feel
No hurt He can not heal
All things work according to His perfect will
No matter what you're going through
Remember God is using You
For the battle is not yours
It's the Lord's


and Whitney Houston also says

Lost touch with my soul
I had no where to turn
I had no where to go
Lost sight of my dream,
Thought it would be the end of me
I thought I’d never make it through
I had no hope to hold on to,
I thought I would break

I didn’t know my own strength
And I crashed down, and I tumbled
But I did not crumble
I got through all the pain
I didn’t know my own strength
Survived my darkest hour
My faith kept me alive
I picked myself back up
Hold my head up high
I was not built to break
I didn’t know my own strength

These 2 very extreme women are the reason I've decided to getup and face the world because they made me realise that I'm not the only one who goes through hardship,that i shudn't throw in in the towel just yet and that like my favourite book in the world says in Phillipians 4vs13 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me!!

Hope I've also inspired you if you going through any hardship and that you'll be able to get out of that dark cloud you in and force the sun to come out, I just have and I know I'm going to be okay!!

The Hustle waits for no one...GET UP OFF YOUR BEHIND and do something I just did!!

Unhappy but GLAD..!!

A friend invited me to spend some time with her on holiday in San Lameer at the Mondezar Resort,the place was amazing felt like I was in the Bahamas even though I have never been there...Lol it was amazing like of a set of some romantic movie,we were given a suite filled with all 2 girls would desire on a holiday!

The first day there was spent lazying around in the room,eating and watching the telly however the life changing moment came the following day when for the first time in about 4 years I was able to slip a bikini on my size 38 body and walk around in just that at the beach,I didn't care what anyone had to say and looked past the cellulite which thinks it has found a permanent home on my thighs. That day for me will forever remain in my heart as it helped me find confidence that I have never had and to this day I'm greatful that my friend Mpho made me take that holiday!

As women we have so many burdens,so many trials and tribulations but I've learnt that even when you facing your darkest day were you feel you have no reason to live think about the moments in your life where you felt like a PRINCESS and had no cares what so ever because in those moments you find comfort and reason to live.